why the “wrong” mate is a divine messenger!

MateHave you ever been so angry at yourself for opening your heart and letting someone in, only for them to turn around and break it? In turn, you become bitter from a broken heart and then get angrier at them, because it seems like they don’t care about the affect it has on you. So, you proceed to fantasize about all the ways in which you are going to get revenge…but somehow the revenge never takes place because this person is ultimately a divine messenger.


One of my greatest challenges-of-all-time to overcome was that of low self- esteem. I didn’t know my worth and couldn’t feel good in my own skin. Now, while I felt this was due to my intensely abusive upbringing (another newsletter), it truly left how I felt about me in shambles, even as I was pretending like my life was fantastic on the outside…can you relate?

I found myself in and out of countless unfulfilling relationships, then, I realized they all had one thing in common: I was attracting men who were holding up a mirror of my low self-image for me to see. Unfortunately, I was too busy being pissed off at them for what they had done to me, and completely missed the most extraordinary gift they had come to bring. In reality they were wanting me to wake up to my “fabulousness” by giving me the impression that I wasn’t good enough to “meet the family”, or I was ok for now, but could never be the “one.” Though none of this was ever verbalized, and by no means intentional.

My awakening to the Sacred Wisdom of the “Divine Messenger” came through someone I was wild about.  I must first admit that I got tired of the relationship drama, and desperately needed to stop suffering. I felt totally unappreciated, misunderstood and not valued in this union. Though on some level the relationship worked, which is why I stayed. Sounds familiar?

While my self-esteem issues might have been present, there were two things I knew for sure:

First: I was a loving, generous, creative, unique, heart-centered person, who had much to offer a mate.  But I needed to figure out what I was doing wrong and change it.

Second: With every fiber in my being, I knew a dynamic, passionate, fulfilling relationship existed, and I was determined to find it.

With this newfound determination and awareness, I went on a journey to understand what was going on with me. Why was I consistently choosing men who didn’t feel the same, as I felt about them, and why was I repeating the same heartbreaking patterns?

I began by going deep within, connecting with spirit and being very honest with myself.  I soon uncovered that this man was a divine Messenger. He was simply showing me the negative, low level, “false” sense of self that I was holding about me. A very painful realization I assure you.

This profound discovery lead me to walking away from him immediately, something I had very seldom done –as I was always the one being left. By releasing this relationship I sent a powerful message to the universe that I was indeed deserving and ready for an extraordinary mate. It felt fantastic!  Most significantly, I came to greatly appreciate this man, for teaching me in a most agonizing way, who it is I truly was.

Within eight months of leaving him, I met my soul mate!

So, where in your life are you feeling stuck, miserable and consistently attracting less than desirable experiences in your relationships?

If you can be open to receiving the amazing gift that this “wrong” person is here to give, be assured that you are on your way to “cracking the code” to meeting your soul mate, and creating your ultimate relationship.

Coaching my clients to unravel the mysteries of what keeps them going around in circles with the “wrong” person (only with a different face every time) has made a miraculous difference in them being able to easily release and find the blessings in their disturbing relationship experiences.

In truth, there are no “wrong” mate, relationship or circumstances only divine interactions and messages. Understanding of this Sacred Wisdom is really where you begin to create magic in your life!





  1. And often that’s precisely why and when it happens. A soulmate walks in. At the worst possible time — or so you may think. Your soul knows it’s exactly the right time. Your soul knows it’s time for a change, which sooner than later you won’t be able to deny.

  2. Florence Desmangles says:

    This is a powerful and revealing message with valuable lessons to be learned.
    Thank you for sharing…

    • You are so welcome! It’s life changing when you understand the spiritual and energetic reasons for the unpleasant experiences that appear to be happening in your life and relationships. You become very powerful and have the ability to create what you desire with more ease.

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